How can we help?
- Reporting to police (if you chose to)
- Help you identify patterns of abuse
- Learn the red flags if dangerous relationships
- Strategies for surviving narcissistic abuse
- Understanding cognitive dissonance
The terms Family Violence and Domestic Violence are used interchangeably to refer to a complex intermix of harmful, violent, aggressive, and abusive behaviours within a relationship. Domestic violence is not a about a loss of control, or a crime of passion. Domestic violence is a crime of power and control.
Below are a range of behaviours that one person can deliberately uses to threaten, control, intimidate or manipulate the other person:
Punching; pushing; hitting; hair pulling; kidnapping; inflicting burns; choking; strangulation; damaging property.
Rape; sexual assaults; demands for sex; forced sexual contact; forced to watch pornography; deliberate inflicting of pain during sex; contact with sexually transmitted disease through sexual acts; infidelity.
Humiliation; gas lighting; mind games; manipulation; harassment; intimidation; stalking; possessiveness/jealousy; blaming the victim; threats to destroy possessions; threats to harm or kill family members or pets.
Name calling; insults; yelling; swearing; malicious gossip; threats to disclose secrets; bullying.
Preventing or limiting access to money and/or bank accounts; questioning money spent; insufficient money to buy food and necessities; questioning bank statements; threatening to cut-off access to the home or finances if the abuse is reported; purchasing luxury items while forcing others to be denied basic essentials or their ‘fair share’; gambling excessively; withholding child support.
Isolation; limiting contact with others, controlling and restricting access to family and friends; enforced confinement in the home; controlling the use of car and/or telephone; not allowing/enforcing religious or cultural practices; continual questioning about whereabouts and checking of phone messages and bills.
Non Fatal Strangulation
Non-fatal strangulation is the most lethal form of Intimate Partner Violence perpetrated against woman. The abuser is saying “I am warning you. I can kill you at any time” and is the ultimate form on intimidation and coercion.
In an Australian study between 2008-2010:
5% of all homicides involved strangulation
9% of domestic homicides involved strangulation.
According to Glass et al 2008, victims of previous non-fatal strangulation are 7 times more likely to be victim of homicide in the future.
The prevalence of non-fatal strangulation is 13 times higher in women than in men. (Patch, Anderson and Campbell, 2017) Therefore non-fatal strangulation is considered to be a gendered act of violence.
It is critical that a victim of strangulation, whether or not they have lost consciousness or have visible injuries, have an immediate medical assessment.
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