Domestic Violence

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  • Reporting to police (if you chose to)
  • Help you identify patterns of abuse
  • Learn the red flags if dangerous relationships
  • Strategies for surviving narcissistic abuse
  • Understanding cognitive dissonance

The terms Family Violence and Domestic Violence are used interchangeably to refer to a complex intermix of harmful, violent, aggressive, and abusive behaviours within a relationship.  Domestic violence is not a about a loss of control, or a crime of passion. Domestic violence is a crime of  power and control.

Below are a range of behaviours that one person can deliberately uses to threaten, control, intimidate or manipulate the other person:

Physical Abuse

Punching; pushing; hitting; hair pulling; kidnapping; inflicting burns; choking; strangulation; damaging property.

Sexual Violence

Rape; sexual assaults; demands for sex; forced sexual contact; forced to watch pornography; deliberate inflicting of pain during sex; contact with sexually transmitted disease through sexual acts; infidelity.

Emotional Abuse

Humiliation; gas lighting; mind games; manipulation; harassment; intimidation; stalking; possessiveness/jealousy; blaming the victim; threats to destroy possessions; threats to harm or kill family members or pets.

Verbal Abuse

Name calling; insults; yelling; swearing; malicious gossip; threats to disclose secrets; bullying.

Financial Abuse

Preventing or limiting access to money and/or bank accounts; questioning money spent; insufficient money to buy food and necessities; questioning bank statements; threatening to cut-off access to the home or finances if the abuse is reported; purchasing luxury items while forcing others to be denied basic essentials or their ‘fair share’; gambling excessively; withholding child support.

Social Abuse

Isolation; limiting contact with others, controlling and restricting access to family and friends; enforced confinement in the home; controlling the use of car and/or telephone; not allowing/enforcing religious or cultural practices; continual questioning about whereabouts and checking of phone messages and bills.

Non Fatal Strangulation

Non-fatal strangulation is the most lethal form of Intimate Partner Violence perpetrated against woman.   The abuser is saying “I am warning you. I can kill you at any time” and is the ultimate form on intimidation and coercion.

In an Australian study between 2008-2010:

5% of all homicides involved strangulation

9% of domestic homicides  involved strangulation.

According to Glass et al 2008, victims of previous non-fatal strangulation are 7 times more likely to be victim of homicide in the future.

The prevalence of non-fatal strangulation is 13 times higher in women than in men. (Patch, Anderson and Campbell, 2017) Therefore non-fatal strangulation is considered to be a gendered act of violence.

It is critical that a victim of strangulation, whether or not they have lost consciousness or have visible injuries, have an immediate medical assessment.

More Information

Please download the fact sheets below for more information

Domestic Violence and Children

The effects on children and parenting

Why does he do it?

Why does he do it?

Men and Domestic Violence

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