The terms Family Violence and Domestic Violence are used interchangeably to refer to a complex intermix of harmful, violent, aggressive, and abusive behaviours within a relationship. Domestic violence is not a about a loss of control, or a crime of passion. Domestic violence is a crime of power and control.
Below are a range of behaviours that one person can deliberately uses to threaten, control, intimidate or manipulate the other person:
Punching; pushing; hitting; hair pulling; kidnapping; inflicting burns; choking; strangulation; damaging property.
Rape; demands for sex; forced sexual contact; forced to watch pornography; deliberate inflicting of pain during sex; contact with sexually transmitted disease through sexual acts; infidelity.
Humiliation; gas lighting; mind games; manipulation; harassment; intimidation; stalking; possessiveness/jealousy; blaming the victim; threats to destroy possessions; threats to harm or kill family members or pets.
Name calling; insults; yelling; swearing; malicious gossip; threats to disclose secrets; bullying.
Preventing or limiting access to money and/or bank accounts; questioning money spent; insufficient money to buy food and necessities; questioning bank statements; threatening to cut-off access to the home or finances if the abuse is reported; purchasing luxury items while forcing others to be denied basic essentials or their ‘fair share’; gambling excessively; withholding child support.
Isolation; limiting contact with others, controlling and restricting access to family and friends; enforced confinement in the home; controlling the use of car and/or telephone; not allowing/enforcing religious or cultural practices; continual questioning about whereabouts and checking of phone messages and bills.
How can we help?
- Reporting to police (if you chose to)
- Help you identify patterns of abuse
- Learn the red flags if dangerous relationships
- Strategies for surviving narcissistic abuse
- Understanding cognitive dissonance
Please download the fact sheets below for more information