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The terms Family Violence and Domestic Violence are used interchangeably to refer to a complex intermix of harmful, violent, aggressive, and abusive behaviours within a relationship. Domestic violence is not a about a loss of control, nor is it a crime of passion. Domestic violence is a crime of power and control and the risk to victim-survivors significantly increases at the time of separation. Read “Why does he do it?”
Victim-survivors of family violence (including children) are eligible for trauma counselling through NSW Victim Services. Depending on your circumstances, you may also be eligible for financial assistance via the Domestic Violence Immediate Needs package. Please contact us for assistance with applications.
In addition to the above, we offer support and assistance for:
- Safety planning
- Identifying patterns of abuse
- Identifying and understanding the red flags in dangerous relationships
- Education and strategies for surviving narcissistic abuse
- Understanding cognitive dissonance
Below are a range of behaviours that one person can deliberately uses to threaten, control, intimidate or manipulate an intimate partner:
Punching; pushing; hitting; hair pulling; kidnapping; inflicting burns; choking; strangulation; damaging property, throwing items at or near a person.
Rape; sexual assaults; unwanted sexual touching, sexual harassment, sharing intimate images without consent, filming sexual acts without consent.
Humiliation; gas lighting; mind games; manipulation; harassment; intimidation; stalking; possessiveness/jealousy; blaming the victim; threats to destroy possessions; threats to harm or kill family members or pets.
Name calling; insults; yelling; swearing; malicious gossip; threats to disclose secrets; bullying.
Preventing or limiting access to money and/or bank accounts; questioning money spent; insufficient money to buy food and necessities; questioning bank statements; threatening to cut-off access to the home or finances if the abuse is reported; purchasing luxury items while forcing others to be denied basic essentials or their ‘fair share’; gambling excessively; withholding child support.
Isolation; limiting contact with others, controlling and restricting access to family and friends; enforced confinement in the home; controlling the use of car and/or telephone; not allowing/enforcing religious or cultural practices; continual questioning about whereabouts and checking of phone messages and bills.
Non Fatal Strangulation
Non-fatal strangulation is the most lethal form of Intimate Partner Violence perpetrated against woman and is the ultimate form on intimidation and coercion.
In an Australian study between 2008-2010:
5% of all homicides involved strangulation
9% of domestic homicides involved strangulation.
According to Glass et al 2008, victims of previous non-fatal strangulation are 7 times more likely to be victim of homicide in the future.
The prevalence of non-fatal strangulation is 13 times higher in women than in men. (Patch, Anderson and Campbell, 2017) Therefore non-fatal strangulation is considered to be a gendered act of violence.
It is critical that a victim-survivor of strangulation, whether or not they have lost consciousness or have visible injuries, have an immediate medical assessment.
Please download the fact sheets below for more information